About Victoria
Victoria Stalder is a licensed marriage and family therapist who offers calm, down-to-earth support for people facing stress, anxiety, relationship struggles, trauma, and life changes. She meets people where they are and helps them find clearer ways forward.
Background and approach
Her tone is warm and straightforward, and she focuses on practical steps as well as emotional healing. Victoria has practiced therapy since 2018 and brings six years of experience to her work.
She uses approaches that help clients feel understood and make tangible changes. Sessions focus on what matters most to each person - relieving anxiety, repairing connection, or coping with loss and major transitions.
Her work draws on attachment-based ideas to map relationship patterns and on emotion-focused methods to name and work with strong feelings. She also uses cognitive-behavioral tools to identify unhelpful thoughts and change them.
For people with trauma, she includes EMDR-based strategies when appropriate to reduce the intensity of painful memories. Victoria supports people dealing with intimacy-related concerns, parenting stress, addictions, low self-esteem, and grief.
She offers therapy for both individuals and couples, guiding practical steps and emotional processing. Her approach blends listening, reflection, and tools you can use between sessions.
Sessions are offered in English and are scheduled to fit client needs in Washington. Victoria describes therapy as a collaborative process: she helps set goals, checks progress, and adjusts methods based on what’s working.
She aims to help people feel more capable and more connected to themselves and others.
How attachment and emotion work in online therapy
Attachment-Based Therapy helps people see repeating patterns in relationships and where they feel stuck. Online sessions use conversation and reflection to map those patterns and try new ways of relating. Emotionally-Focused Therapy focuses on understanding and naming strong feelings that drive interaction problems. In teletherapy this can help partners and individuals identify emotions and practice new responses during conversations. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at thoughts and behaviors that keep problems going and offers simple exercises to change them, such as tracking thoughts or testing beliefs.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will talk with the client about goals, try methods that match those goals, and adjust the plan based on what helps. That collaborative process means techniques can be mixed and tailored over time to fit the person's needs and preferences.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video calls are useful for deeper, conversation-focused work and for couples sessions. Phone sessions can fit a shorter check-in or when bandwidth is limited. Live chat and text messaging make it easier to fit brief check-ins into a busy day and to get support between sessions. These options give flexibility so people can keep therapy consistent while balancing work, family, or other commitments.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
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Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 6 years
- Licensed
- Washington
- Languages
- English