About Siyi
Siyi Lai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who focuses on stress, anxiety, relationship and intimacy-related concerns. She helps people strengthen self-esteem and cope with major life changes.
Background and approach
Siyi draws on both professional training and years of life experience to support people through personal and relational challenges. She keeps sessions direct and practical.
Conversations often begin with clear goals and small steps clients can try between meetings. Siyi uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to address communication, emotional regulation, and patterns that get in the way of trust and closeness.
Her work includes addressing attachment and abandonment concerns, avoidant personality patterns, and issues that touch body image, guilt, and shame. Siyi also supports people who want to talk about BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture without judgment.
She helps individuals navigate blended family stress, caregiver strain, divorce and separation, and family of origin issues. Sessions are offered in English, Mandarin, and Cantonese for people located in New York.
Siyi has four years of clinical experience and holds a New York LMFT credential, which indicates her role as a marriage and family therapist in that state. People who want to begin can complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule sessions.
Therapy options include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging, so people can pick what fits their schedule and communication style.
How evidence-based approaches work online
Siyi uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques that focus on patterns, communication, and emotional regulation. One common approach helps people identify unhelpful relationship patterns and practice new ways of relating step by step; this can reduce repeated hurt and improve closeness. Another approach targets anxiety and stress by teaching concrete skills for managing worry and building tolerance for strong emotions, useful for daily life challenges and transitions.Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels most useful. Together they try methods and adjust the plan over time to match the person's needs and progress.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls make it possible to have a focused session with visual cues. Phone sessions work when bandwidth is low or when someone prefers not to be on camera. Live chat or text-based messaging allow shorter check-ins, written reflection, or support between calls. These options help people fit therapy into busy schedules and communicate in the way that feels most comfortable.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Intimacy-related issues
Also works with
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Divorce and separation
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Multicultural concerns
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Experience
- 4 years
- Licensed
- New York
- Languages
- English, Mandarin, Cantonese