About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in California with four decades of experience. He began his career in county mental health, working with children and families, and has maintained a independent practice for many years.
Background and approach
John focuses on practical help for everyday problems and big life shifts. He speaks English and also works with clients from other countries.
John keeps sessions warm and personal. He gets to know each person and treats them with respect and sensitivity.
He believes clients are the experts on their own lives and partners with them to set realistic goals. Sessions mix conversation with straightforward tools aimed at real change.
His work addresses relationship concerns, trauma and abuse, intimacy issues, depression, anxiety, stress, and addictions. He also helps with parenting challenges, grief, sleep and eating problems, anger, self-esteem, career questions, ADHD, and compassion fatigue.
Additional focuses include attachment issues, adoption and foster care, blended family concerns, and forgiveness. John draws on a range of approaches, including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
He and the client decide together which approaches fit best for the situation. The emphasis is on practical steps that fit daily life.
For people unsure how to begin, John encourages a short introductory process to match goals with style. He uses phone, video, chat, and messaging to make sessions fit busy schedules.
His practice uses a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online work
John uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in ways that fit online formats. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on helping people notice unhelpful thoughts and commit to actions that match their values. It is useful for anxiety, depression, and life transitions and can work well in conversation and exercises over video or messaging. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helps identify patterns of thinking and behavior and teaches practical skills to change them. CBT often uses short homework tasks that transfer easily to phone or text follow-ups.Choosing the right approach is part of the process. John works together with each person to decide which methods match their goals, preferences, and daily routines. That means trying tools, reviewing what helps, and adjusting the plan as needed in collaborative sessions.
Online formats offer flexibility for people with busy lives or limited travel options. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and screen-sharing for worksheets. Phone sessions work well when bandwidth is limited or a quieter check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging let clients check in between sessions, complete brief exercises, or have shorter touchpoints without scheduling a full session.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also works with
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English